When we stand up in front of a group of people and start to speak nerves kick in. This is an animal response to nerves that sends our equilibrium reeling.
But there are many factors that increase our feelings of nervousness when public speaking.
There are two broad types:
Internal – that is how we personally respond; and
External factors – things we feel are outside our control.
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External Fears of public speaking
The most common external ones are:
- Importance of the stakes involved (career/status)
- The size and composition of the audience
- The venue – Is it the well-known Board Room or the unknown Conference Centre
- The time of day – some people are better in the morning and some in the evening
- Your personal state of emotional wellbeing – recent personal events may have taken their toll (relationship break-ups/bereavement) or made you feel great (falling in love/getting a promotion)
- Your recent performance when speaking – 3 good ones in a row or 3 disasters?
Internal fears when speaking in public
On top of these external factors are four common internal fears or worries:
1. Fear of being nervous
(As Roosevelt said, “The only thing we have to fear, is fear itself .”)
People often say, “If I look nervous on the outside, my internal, confident persona crumbles.”
So often the battle is not with the fear itself but between two parts of yourself.
Your confident persona is in conflict with the sensitive and feeling part of you.
If you broke your arm you wouldn’t pretend you hadn’t broken your arm and divorce yourself from it. Everyone can see you’re wearing a plaster cast.
Try admitting your fear to yourself. Even try saying, “I am excited to be speaking to you today. I’m SO excited that I’m scared stiff because I want to do the best job for you I can. So if you see my hand shaking it’s only excitement!”
2. Fear of being judged – worrying what others will think of us
We often think the whole audience is sitting there judging us, as if we were contestants on THE X FACTOR. Just remember, that audiences have their own issues to worry about. For example:
- May a sick child at home
- Maybe thinking about what to question to ask afterwards
- Maybe angry with a co-worker for plotting against him at work
- Maybe worried about losing his job
- Maybe worried he has an uncomfortable ulcer
Because of this, your audience will tune in and out of your speech thinking about themselves and their own worries. They might very well not notice if you blush or that your hand shook for a couple of seconds.
3. Fear of going off script – forgetting your words
Fear of forgetting your words is, of course, a worry for many professional actors and singers. Barbara Striesand once forgot her lyrics in 1968 and didn’t perform live again for years. If you are giving a presentation, most of the audience will not know what you had intended to say. So if you forget your words or ‘go off script’ they probably won’t even be aware of it!
You could occasionally try speaking off the cuff – you probably know your subject well enough anyway. And speaking off the cuff can often have great benefits in making it sound as if you really mean what you say and are not merely reading a script. (A word of caution here – you can only do this is you know your subject well or you have prepared thoroughly.)
4. Fear of large audiences
If you are speaking to under a dozen, you can see their eyes and their faces and read how you’re doing. In larger groups – we often feel a ‘mass of humanity’ starring back at us in judgement. And if you see one person yawning you tend to think that everyone you can’t see clearly is also bored.
Remember, even the largest audience is made up of individuals. Try to talk to them individually, each one at a time.
BUT Fear can save your life
Finally Fear is not always bad, it can save your life – like avoiding a crash or falling off a cliff.
But remember that we need Big fears for big threats and only Little fears for little threats.
You can allow yourself a little fear when speaking in public – a little dose of adrenalin can up your excitement factor – but let’s not get carried away, it’s not actually a life and death situation. Try to enjoy it!
About the author of this public speaking article
This article was written by Robin, one of Skillstudio’s consultant trainers.
Robin is based in London, is an excellent trainer; and runs many of our public speaking training sessions (from 1-2-1 coaching through to Masterclasses).
You can read his training bio here.
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